Richard’s super skydive raises £1,400 for Pilgrims Hospices in memory of loved ones
In July 2024, to celebrate his 60th birthday, Richard Graham from Broadstairs braved a skydive for Pilgrims Hospices.
He raised an incredible £1,400 for hospice care in east Kent in memory of family members who received the charity’s compassionate care.
Nicola on her wedding day with her mum, Jacqueline
Richard and his wife, Nicola Jenkins-Graham, experienced Pilgrims’ services first-hand after Nicola’s mum, Jacqueline Jenkins, was diagnosed with cancer. Jacqueline spent time in the Ashford hospice in 2023. Nicola’s auntie, Ann Shersby, was also cared for by Pilgrims in 2024.
Nicola said: “I’m so grateful to Pilgrims for looking after my dear mum and my auntie.
“When my mum was referred to Pilgrims, I was very scared. I remember the day the wonderful Pilgrims nurse walked through our door; how lucky we were to get someone to come and see us at home, I thought! She was so kind and understanding; although she broached subjects that were a little difficult to discuss, she held our hands throughout the whole journey.
“It was then I realised that Pilgrims were not just there to care for my mum, they were there for us as a family, too. Support and visits continued, and there was always a friendly and helpful person on the end of the phone if we had concerns, or to give us reassurance we were doing the right thing.
“On 21 August 2023, Mum wasn’t doing so well. With support from Pilgrims, we decided to move her into the hospice, where a bed was available. I arrived in such a state; Mum was comfortable and safe, but the worry had got to me. As we entered the hospice, a sense of calm came over me. Mum was taken to her room by the wonderful nurses, and the amazing volunteers ushered me to a chair and brought me a big mug of tea, a supply of biscuits and a box of tissues. Their support and kindness was so appreciated, as I was tired and in shock knowing that I’d left my dear Mum’s house with her for the last time.
“Mum’s room was decorated with care to make it a home away from home. She was wrapped up and comfy and looked so relaxed. There was a balcony and views over the beautiful garden. At the end of the corridor was a serene room for relatives with tea and coffee, comfy sofas, a TV and puzzles – so, when Mum was sleeping, I was able to rest and relax in peace and quiet. The volunteers regularly checked on me to make sure I had something to eat and offered me more tea. On one occasion, the lovely Cat Darkins, Lead Spiritual Chaplain, sat with me and brought me much comfort at a difficult time.
Nicola with her auntie, Ann
“Mum was in the hospice for 10 days; she was a fighter. I cannot thank the wonderful nurses, doctors and volunteers enough for making my mum’s last days peaceful. They treated her with so much dignity and respect, and I am eternally grateful.
“I was also supported by a bereavement counsellor who helped me on my grief journey and showed me the skills I’d need to continue my life in remembrance of my dear mum.
“I would tell anyone who may need Pilgrims services: Don’t be scared to reach out; they will be there to support you through dark times, and you will feel like you have warm angel wings comforting you.
“This is why Richard and I are doing what we can to support the hospice. He celebrated his 60th birthday in 2024 and decided to jump out of the plane for Pilgrims! I was so proud of him for being so brave and raising £1,400 for such a meaningful cause. Since then, we’ve raised even more and will continue to support Pilgrims in any way we can.”
Richard with Karen Kenward, Community Fundraising Manager
Richard added:
“Pilgrims Hospices provided exceptional care and comfort during my mother-in-law’s illness, so I signed up for a skydive and set up a JustGiving Page to raise money for them. I was overwhelmed by the incredible generosity of everyone who donated.
“When the day arrived, the weather was glorious. My wife, mum and dad, daughter, her partner, and my two lovely grandsons came to Headcorn to support me. My friend, David, also booked to jump with me as moral support. I wasn’t sure what to expect; leading up to it, I was completely relaxed. I thought maybe the nerves would kick in, but I felt calm, probably more calm than my family. It was amazing looking down out of the plane before we jumped, and the feeling is incredible as you free fall, then calmness when the parachute opens, and you slowly float back down to the ground.
“Overall, it was an exhilarating experience that I will never forget. It was made even more meaningful with my family being there and being able to raise so much money for the wonderful Pilgrims Hospices. I am so grateful for everyone’s support and generosity.”
Richard Graham Skydive 9
Richard Graham Skydive 3
If you’d like to support Pilgrims by taking on a challenge for local hospice care, visit pilgrimshospices.org/events to find out how you can get involved.
Each year, Pilgrims Hospices care for thousands of people across east Kent, with services provided from its three hospice sites in Ashford, Canterbury, and Thanet, as well as in patients’ own homes. It costs over £17.2 million annually to run these services, much of which comes from the generous support of the local community.
18th November 2024
Thousands raised at Pilgrims Hospices Christmas Fair
Hundreds of local residents gathered at the Pilgrims Hospices annual Christmas Fair on Saturday 16 November, held at Kingswood, Grosvenor Hall, Ashford.
Thanks to the incredible community support, the event raised over £14,000 to support hospice care.
Visitors enjoyed a festive day out with delicious refreshments, Christmas music, and an array of games. Children were entertained with crafts, including decorating gingerbread shapes and painting plates. The highlight for many was a visit from Father Christmas and his elves, who handed out gifts to delighted young attendees.
Local businesses generously supported the fair by donating goods and services. Special thanks go to Kingswood, Grosvenor Hall, for providing the venue, as well as:
The Works, Tyson Foods, Grovewell Garden Centre, Domino’s, Greggs, Argos, Ashford Mobile Footcare, T&T’s Hair, Tickled Trout at Wye, Westwell Wines, Brakes, Curco, Asda, Tesco Park Farm and Crooksfoot, Waitrose in Ashford, Tenterden, and Hythe
Louise Newman, Community Fundraising Manager at Pilgrims Hospices, said: “We are incredibly grateful to everyone who donated items or joined us on the day. With the support of over 90 volunteers, we’ve managed to raise vital funds for Pilgrims Hospices. Every contribution helps us provide care for those facing life-limiting illnesses and support their families during challenging times.”
Pilgrims Hospices’ next Ashford event is the Christmas Tree Recycling fundraiser on 11 and 12 January 2025.
It’s a fantastic way to dispose of your real Christmas trees, with collections by our dedicated teams of volunteers.
Each year, Pilgrims Hospices care for thousands of people across east Kent, with services provided from its three hospice sites in Ashford, Canterbury, and Thanet, as well as in patients’ own homes. It costs over £17.2 million annually to run these services, much of which comes from the generous support of the local community.
10th October 2024
Pauline thanks Pilgrims Hospices with kind donation in memory of husband, Jim
Jim Jeffrey from Ashford received Pilgrims Hospices care in 2024.
Jim had Progressive Supranuclear Palsy (PSP), which affected his body and mobility, and Motor Neurone Disease (MND); attending the Time to Create therapeutic art group at the Ashford hospice enabled him to make the most of the time he had.
When Jim died, in lieu of flowers, his family and friends fundraised for Pilgrims. The money raised bought a projector, speaker and stand to enhance the charity’s Wellbeing Programme so that others can continue to benefit from this vital care.
Jim’s wife, Pauline, presented the donations to the Wellbeing team. She said:
“I want to express my deep gratitude for the care and support Jim received from Pilgrims, a charity that will forever hold a special place in my heart. Despite his health conditions and the challenges he faced, he fought with resilience. His battle was long and hard, but he showed incredible strength and courage throughout.
“Jim took part in Pilgrims Wellbeing groups for six months, and I can’t tell you how much that experience meant to him and our family. The groups brought a light to Jim’s life that I hadn’t seen in a long time, giving him purpose and happiness during a period when those things felt out of reach. They gave us cherished memories that I will hold onto forever.
Pauline and Jim
“The nurses and wider team were so attentive to his wellbeing, and the compassion and kindness shown to us during that time was nothing short of amazing. I’d like to give a special mention to Jan Murphy, Pal Sharma, and the rest of the wonderful team who made such a positive impact on Jim’s life. I will always be so thankful, and I can only hope that others who need Pilgrims care find the same support that we did.
“Sadly, we lost Jim on 6 June 2024, but felt it would be fitting to raise money for the Wellbeing services that brought him so much joy. When we asked the team what they would like to invest the money in, they chose a projector, speaker and stand to enhance the services they provide. It’s comforting to know that these items will be used to continue bringing happiness and support to others.”
Pal Sharma and Jan Murphy, Wellbeing Practitioners, said:
“We’re so grateful to Pauline and her family and friends for this kind and generous donation. The speaker and projector are fantastic additions to our wellbeing sessions, especially for Living Well and Time to Create groups. The projector will allow guest speakers to display their presentations during Living Well, and it can also be used to play creative and artistic videos during Time to Create.
“The speakers will enable group participants to play their preferred music during sessions. Music has a powerful effect on our patients and carers, helping them to relax and uplift their spirits.”
Pauline added: “I sincerely hope that others who are able to contribute will do so, to help Pilgrims continue the amazing work they do.”
For more information on Pilgrims Hospices’ Wellbeing Programme:
Call the Pilgrims Hospices Advice Line on 01233 504 133
Pilgrims Hospices is a charity dedicated to providing expert care and support to patients with life-limiting illnesses in east Kent. Our services ensure comfort, dignity, and quality of life for patients and their families, offering compassionate care both in hospice settings and in the community.
24th September 2024
Super fundraiser Sian raises over £1,000 for Pilgrims Hospices in memory of mum
Sian fundraised in memory of her mum, Denise, who received Pilgrims care in 2022.
Sian and Denise
Sian felt so supported by Pilgrims during her mum’s illness that she wanted to give back.
She said: “Pilgrims regularly checked in, ensuring she was comfortable with the huge changes in her life that she was about to face. They fitted aids throughout our home to support her as her physical strength gradually worsened.
“In the days leading up to her passing, she got sick. We phoned Pilgrims for advice, and they informed our GP and requested a scan. On the morning of the scan, Mum struggled to get up. I called Pilgrims and they told me to phone the hospital. This became one of the last days we spent with Mum; without Pilgrims’ guidance, we wouldn’t have had that extra time with her before she passed.
“During this period when Mum was unwell, I was on my own caring for her whilst trying to balance working a full-time job as well as making time for myself. Pilgrims acted as a friend, offering advice and support.
“No one can prepare you to lose a parent. Life is short, and although I would’ve loved to spend the rest of my life with Mum, having those extra days with her made me eternally grateful – and it’s all thanks to Pilgrims for listening to me on the other end of that phone call.
Sian took on The Big Half on Sunday 1 September 2024.
Sian at The Big Half 2024
Her friends, family and local gym – Muscle Hut in Ashford – helped her to raise more than £1,000 for Pilgrims.
She added:
“I’m so grateful for the support Pilgrims provided throughout a very difficult time on our family. They were always within arm’s reach, and I’m extremely excited to be giving back to them in any way I can.”
Pilgrims has a limited number of charity places in The Big Half 2025, you can secure your spot on the start line today, for free, with a pledge to raise at least £350 sponsorship for hospice care.
Pilgrims Hospices is a charity dedicated to providing expert care and support to patients with life-limiting illnesses in east Kent. Our services ensure comfort, dignity, and quality of life for patients and their families, offering compassionate care both in hospice settings and in the community.
10th September 2024
Pilgrims Hospices calls for piano players to share the gift of music
Pilgrims Hospices in Ashford is extending an invitation to the community to bring the soothing sounds of music to their sanctuary space.
The hospice, known for its compassionate care, believes that music has the power to bring comfort, relaxation, and a sense of peace to patients, families, and staff alike.
They are calling on piano players from the local area to volunteer their time and talents to play the piano in the hospice’s tranquil sanctuary.
Music has long been recognised as a therapeutic tool, with the ability to ease anxiety, uplift spirits, and create a calming atmosphere. At Pilgrims Hospices, the gentle melodies that flow from the piano can be heard in the ward and the offices, bringing a sense of serenity to everyone in the building. For patients in palliative care, and their families who are often navigating incredibly challenging times, this small act of kindness can make a world of difference.
“We’ve seen first-hand how music can transform the atmosphere here at the hospice,” says Wendy Kelk, Hospice Services Manager at Pilgrims Hospices. “A simple tune played on the piano can bring smiles, spark conversations, and even provide a moment of reflection and peace. We’re inviting anyone who can play the piano, even if it’s just for 10 minutes, to consider stopping by and sharing their gift with us. It’s a small gesture that has a truly profound impact.”
The request is simple: if you or someone you know can play the piano, consider donating a bit of your time, whether it’s once a month, once a week, or simply when the mood strikes. The hospice welcomes these spontaneous performances, knowing that the presence of live music can enhance wellbeing and provide a comforting backdrop to the daily routines of care.
For those interested, there is no need to schedule a formal appointment. The hospice encourages anyone with the ability to play to simply drop in and share their music. You are welcome to come in, when our reception is open, and during visiting hours; the piano awaits the touch of kind-hearted volunteers who wish to contribute to the hospice’s nurturing environment.
By offering just a few minutes of your time, you can help create an atmosphere that soothes, heals, and connects. Pilgrims Hospices deeply appreciates the community’s support in making their space one of comfort and tranquillity.
For more information, please contact Wendy Kelk, Hospice Services Manager:
Pilgrims Hospices is a charity dedicated to providing expert care and support to patients with life-limiting illnesses in east Kent. Our services ensure comfort, dignity, and quality of life for patients and their families, offering compassionate care both in hospice settings and in the community.
6th August 2024
Pilgrims Hospices Summer Fair raises over £15,000 at Sandyacres
On Sunday 28 July 2024, hundreds of community members gathered at Sandyacres Sports and Social Club for the annual Pilgrims Hospices Summer Fair, raising over £15,000 for our charity.
Visitors delighted in browsing a variety of stalls offering puzzles, crafts, children’s toys, and gifts. The children’s craft area was particularly popular, with youngsters creating beautiful artwork using various media.
Delicious treats, including cream teas and cakes, were served at our refreshment stall, while the BBQ was a hit among visitors.
Music filled the air with lively performances by Where’s My Thing, alongside a set by Radio Ashford’s very own Sam Griffin and Webbo.
Faversham Ices generously sold ice creams donated by Consort, ensuring that 100% of the proceeds went to the hospice. We extend a special thanks to Richard, who donated his time and van to make this possible.
We are deeply grateful to the many local companies and our media partners who supported the event by donating prizes for the Grand Draw, tombolas, and stalls.
We are immensely grateful for the unwavering support of our wonderful community. Your generosity enables us to continue making a difference in the lives of those facing life-limiting illnesses, ensuring that they and their families remain at the heart of everything we do.
Pilgrims Community Fundraising Manager for Ashford, Louise Newman, said:
“We are incredibly grateful to all our wonderful supporters and volunteers for making our ‘sunny’ Summer Fair a success. As a local hospice, we are continually moved by the generosity of our community. Every donated item, every helping hand — together, they make a significant difference to our patients and their families.”
Special thanks to AnnMarie Fuggle from Sandyacres Sports and Social Club who donated the use of the venue and supported the event from start to finish.
Over 90 volunteers came together before, during, and after the event to ensure its success. We are especially grateful for their continued support.
From one community to another, thank you. Your support ensures that our families continue to receive the care, compassion, and dignity they deserve during challenging times.
Pilgrims Christmas Fair Saturday 16 November 2024 at Grosvenor Hall, Ashford
Pilgrims Hospices is a local charity dedicated to providing compassionate end-of-life care and support to patients and their families across East Kent. Through their various programs and events, they strive to create a supportive and caring environment for all those they serve.
